Finding someone to go out with is difficult enough. Finding a person with whom you can be happy for the rest of your life may seem impossible. Take your time, hang out with your friends and take care of yourself. Have an appointment, but calmly. Commit yourself, but be careful. Love can not be rushed.
Have a date
The longer you socialize and have dates, the more likely you are to find someone you like. Go out there to attend social events organized by your friends, take classes and chat with classmates, and when you sign up for services, applications and dating pages. Be adventurous and open minded, for example, try to have quick appointments.
- The most common way to meet a future partner is through mutual friends. Spend time with friends and ask them to introduce you to people they think will sympathize with you.
- The second way is in social spaces. This can include everything from bars, concerts, poetry readings and gallery openings to church meetings.
- The third way is through work. If you work from home, consider participating in a team work space. Make visits to the main office and attend conferences whenever you can. However, be slow to invite someone out if they work together on a regular basis, as this could complicate your working life.
- The fourth way is through applications or dating websites and the fifth way is with social networks. Sign up on dating platforms such as OkCupid, Tinder, Grindr and Hinge.
Invite people to leave. If you know someone in real life, invite them to go out in person. Ask him directly so that he knows what you are saying and you can respond in a direct way. To minimize discomfort, ask at the exit. When leaving a situation, say something like “I really liked talking to you, but I have to leave. Would you like to have dinner soon? ”
- If you’re too shy to invite someone out, you can call him. However, you will have to ask for his number.
- If you found the person you are interested in online, send them a friendly message. If you want to have a better idea of the person, send messages 2 to 5 times before inviting her to leave.
- If you invite a friend out, allow plenty of space for a “No”. Be sure to invite your friend out before you are very nervous to the point that rejection makes you feel devastated. When you realize that you’re in love, keep going.
- Keep the friendship if it is not too painful. The person who rejected you could end up introducing you to the person you will be staying with.
Have a date calmly. If you feel anxious to find the “right one”, you could end up scaring your appointments. Plan appointments as you would plan other events: an activity that you could enjoy doing with another person and a friendly commitment to enjoy a meeting. During an appointment, focus on the appointment.
- Ask open questions, listen actively and be honest in your answers.
- Be authentic. Tell the truth when they ask you a question. Worry less for being judged and more for looking fake.
- Stay away from your phone. Concentrate on your appointment!
- Do not spend all your time worrying about finding out if your date is a good match or not. You cannot determine it on a first date. Instead, focus on the conversation and the activity of the appointment.
- Do not say “I love you” or try to talk about long-term commitment on your first dates.
Be nice if you have appointments to find a life partner, show your best self. Do not try to dominate or make mental games with your appointment.
- Despising your appointment or criticizing others will show you that you are insecure or cruel.
- Even if you have the idea that you might not want a second date, do your best to enjoy the date you have. Treat your appointment well! Even if you do not want them to meet again, it will still deserve your courteous and friendly attention.
Organize an appointment that you can enjoy. Dating does not have to be going to dinner, drinking wine and making eye contact. Plan something that you would feel most comfortable doing. Go for a coffee and take a walk in a park. Visit an exhibition at a local museum. Meet for breakfast in a restaurant and sit at the counter.
- Invite your date to a party or other social event. If you get nervous and isolate yourself, try to hang out in a group.
- Give an affirmative answer to the ideas of your appointment. If someone invites you to leave, let that person mention the appointment. Do not assume that you will not enjoy a new place or activity.
Position yourself for success
Educate yourself many couples meet at the university or graduate school. It is a place where people have things in common, spend time nearby and have an idea of the other person as workers and friends. If you have already gone to school or if you cannot go back, try to take extension courses in subjects that interest you, such as cooking, foreign languages, dances or business.
- School is not only an excellent place to meet a potential partner, but educating you can also increase the longevity of your future relationship. Couples with a college education have lower divorce rates than less educated couples.
Watch your health. Your mental and physical health influences who is willing to go out with you and for how long. Exercise regularly and sleep well every night. Eat regular meals, healthy snacks, and avoid sodas and refined sugar. Visit the doctor on a regular basis.
Take special care of your mental health. If you are too shy, depressed, anxious or insecure to have an appointment, visit a therapist.
Take care of your appearance to attract a partner, look your best. Stay clean and shower often; however, use shampoo no more than three times a week. Brush your teeth and floss after eating so that your breathing is fresh and your teeth look healthy.
- Dress yourself to your liking. The fashion options will vary quite depending on your tastes; however, in general, use clothing that fits your body, that is clean and not worn out.
- Use the colors that fit you well or use black and neutral colors if you cannot determine what your colors are.
Love yourself You will not find someone who loves you if you do not love yourself. Follow the things you want in life: a job that you like, friends that treat you well, hobbies you enjoy and good communication with your family. Take care of your emotional, physical and financial well-being.
- Treating yourself well will demonstrate emotional stability, a very attractive feature.
Cultivate your friendships Friends are the most likely to introduce you to your life partner.  They are also the people who will help you during the difficult cycles of appointments, those who will support you when you find someone you like and who will be your companions when you are alone. It is difficult to have an appointment if you are isolated, and it is difficult to become safe and attractive if you are lonely and desperate for company.
- Be good with your friends. You do not have to be a social butterfly. Keep your social commitments, return favors and tell your friends what you appreciate of them.